Starting a conversation about being bullied tips

Starting a conversation with your boss

• Introduction
  "Hey [Boss's name], do you have a moment? I'd like to discuss something that's been bothering me lately."
   
• Setting the context
  "I value my time here and want to continue to contribute positively to the team, which is why I feel it's important to address this issue."
   
• Discussing the issue
  "I've been experiencing some difficulties with [colleague's name] that seem to go beyond professional disagreements. I believe it's affecting my performance and well-being."
   
• Providing evidence
  "Here are some incidents that have occurred [provide specific examples and dates if possible]."
   
• Closing the conversation
  "I would appreciate it if we could find a solution together. What are the next steps?"

Starting a conversation with HR

• Introduction
  "Hello, I've scheduled this meeting because I have a serious concern I'd like to address. Is this a good time?"
   
• Setting the context
  "I want to make sure I handle this situation appropriately, which is why I'm bringing this to HR."
   
• Discussing the issue
  "I've been experiencing ongoing negative interactions with [colleague's name] that I believe amount to bullying."
   
• Providing evidence
  "I've documented these incidents [provide your records]."
   
• Closing the conversation
  "What are HR's standard procedures for dealing with a situation like this?"

Starting a conversation with your trainer or teacher

• Introduction
  "Hi [Trainer's/Teacher's name], can we talk after class/practice? I have a concern that I'd like to discuss."
   
• Setting the context
  "I value this [class/training/team], but something is affecting my ability to focus and participate fully."
   
• Discussing the issue
  "I feel like I'm being targeted by [person's name] and it's impacting my experience here."
   
• Providing evidence
  "For example, [describe incidents, how they make you feel, and how they impact your performance]."
   
• Closing the conversation
  "Can we come up with some solutions together?"

Talking to your teacher or coach

1. Asking to chat
   "Hi [Teacher's/Coach's name], can we talk for a minute?"

2. Saying why you're upset
   "Something's been bothering me and making me feel sad."

3. Telling what happened
   [Name] is being mean to me. They [say/do] things that hurt my feelings."

4. Giving an example
   "Like, yesterday, they [explain what happened]. It made me feel really bad."

5. Asking for help "Can you help me make it stop?"