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Starting a conversation about being bullied tips

Starting a conversation with your boss

  • Introduction
    "Hey [Boss's name], do you have a moment? I'd like to discuss something that's been bothering me lately."
     
  • Setting the context
    "I value my time here and want to continue to contribute positively to the team, which is why I feel it's important to address this issue."
     
  • Discussing the issue
    "I've been experiencing some difficulties with [colleague's name] that seem to go beyond professional disagreements. I believe it's affecting my performance and well-being."
     
  • Providing evidence
    "Here are some incidents that have occurred [provide specific examples and dates if possible]."
     
  • Closing the conversation
    "I would appreciate it if we could find a solution together. What are the next steps?"

 

Starting a conversation with HR

  • Introduction
    "Hello, I've scheduled this meeting because I have a serious concern I'd like to address. Is this a good time?"
     
  • Setting the context
    "I want to make sure I handle this situation appropriately, which is why I'm bringing this to HR."
     
  • Discussing the issue
    "I've been experiencing ongoing negative interactions with [colleague's name] that I believe amount to bullying."
     
  • Providing evidence
    "I've documented these incidents [provide your records]."
     
  • Closing the conversation
    "What are HR's standard procedures for dealing with a situation like this?"

 

Starting a conversation with your trainer or teacher

  • Introduction
    "Hi [Trainer's/Teacher's name], can we talk after class/practice? I have a concern that I'd like to discuss."
     
  • Setting the context
    "I value this [class/training/team], but something is affecting my ability to focus and participate fully."
     
  • Discussing the issue
    "I feel like I'm being targeted by [person's name] and it's impacting my experience here."
     
  • Providing evidence
    "For example, [describe incidents, how they make you feel, and how they impact your performance]."
     
  • Closing the conversation
    "Can we come up with some solutions together?"

 

Talking to your teacher or coach

  1. Asking to chat
    "Hi [Teacher's/Coach's name], can we talk for a minute?"

  2. Saying why you're upset
    "Something's been bothering me and making me feel sad."

  3. Telling what happened
    [Name] is being mean to me. They [say/do] things that hurt my feelings."

  4. Giving an example
    "Like, yesterday, they [explain what happened]. It made me feel really bad."

  5. Asking for help "Can you help me make it stop?"